Look inward, Balancing Family Matters
墨尔本（Melbourne）：刘, Ms Liu
Greetings fellow practitioners!
A few weeks ago, we all knew the time had come again for the annual Fa conference, which was also the best opportunity for every practitioner to summarise their cultivation journey for the year, report to Master and share with fellow practitioners. I picked up my pen, but put it down several times, because I felt I hadn’t cultivated well and was far behind the requirements Master set for us. I didn’t have any outstanding achievements and I didn’t feel I could write anything because my experiences were so simple and ordinary.
At our big group Fa study recently, our coordinator said: “Please don’t think that you can only write an experience sharing article when you’ve done very well, and can’t write one when you haven’t done well. Actually, in that case, there’s even more reason for you to write one. You can write about where you haven’t done well, find your shortcomings, share with other practitioners and improve together. Isn’t that even better?”
I was inspired by his words. I used to think that, at a Fa conference, only those who had done extremely well would share their cultivation experiences and how they cultivated diligently. I thought that the experiences of practitioners like me, whose cultivation was pretty ordinary, would not be worth writing about. If I did write, I thought it would give the impression of showing off. The coordinator’s words enlightened me. I felt my thinking was a result of the CCP’s indoctrination. Our Fa conference was not like a CCP “commendation ceremony” to show off individuals, but was rather a conference where practitioners could see their shortcomings so they could cultivate more diligently in future. What we do is not for our Master, or for other practitioners to see, but is for ourselves to improve.
We should be responsible for ourselves and our cultivation. Master published several articles recently to remind us that we should cultivate as we just started and not slack off, so as to achieve consummation. I have reviewed my cultivation journey during the past year after I studied Master’s recent articles and would like to share it with you all.
Part1. No Matter How Severe the Pandemic Became, I Kept Going to the Truth-Clarification Site
The pandemic has lasted for more than three years and there are not many tourists here in Melbourne. The practitioners go to the truth-clarification sites in the city, instead of going to the scenic spots. Many of the practitioners changed to other truth-clarification projects and we didn’t have enough practitioners at the sites in the city. Initially I wanted to stay at home to make phone calls to China, but I changed my mind when I learned that the city sites needed more practitioners. I knew that those sites were the frontline and most important and, no matter how severe the pandemic was, we should keep going there. I could make phone calls to China in the evening.
I would proactively give out material to people at these sites. Many people didn’t want to take it at first, but after I talked to them and told them it was beneficial to read our materials, they would happily take them.
Part2. Promoting Gan Jing World
When Melbourne team started the project of promoting Gan Jing World, I took advantage of possible opportunities to tell either Chinese or Australians by simple words that Gan Jing World is the best website. One Westerner pointed to her child and didn’t want to take the material. I understood and told her that it was the cleanest website, free from violent and erotic material. I showed her the introduction of Gan Jin World and said there were many meaningful programs for children. Then she happily took the material.
I often let people scan the QR code in front of me. Some people saw the Shen Yun advert immediately and were very happy to see it. I also let the ladies know that there were lots of videos on how to cook, especially Chinese food. They were interested and thanked me again and again. I also introduced Gan Jin World to all my contacts.
One day when I was shopping, I talked to the shop owner and gave her a card introducing Gan Jin World. When I went there again, I asked if she had visited the Gan Jin World website. She told me happily that she couldn’t do without this website and watched it every day. She liked listening to the program “Beijing Tea House”. She pointed to her ear and I saw she was wearing earphones. She said she was listening to that program. She asked me when Shen Yun would come. She said that the Shen Yun ad was so beautiful. I told her that I would book tickets for her when Shen Yun came. She said that she had a big family and lots of friends. I assured her that it would be no problem to book tickets for her.
I realised through this incident that many Chinese people refused to take our truth-clarification materials because they had been brainwashed and threatened by the CCP since they were very young. Because of this, they didn’t know the truth and were also very scared. I told the tourists from Mainland China that the fact they were still scared of their government and the CCP, even though they were abroad, indicated that the CCP and their government were evil. How come its own people were so terribly scared of the government? Some of them admitted what I said was true. If they listen to us more and visit Gan Jing World often, they will change. This is why we should promote Gan Jing World to people.
Part3. Trying my best to Balance Family Well
While clarifying the truth to people and saving sentient beings, I realized that we should balance family well.
When I wasn’t clarifying the truth at the truth-clarification sites, I did letter box drops, promoting Shen Yun and putting up posters with other practitioners. I was out almost every day. But I got up early, cooked the meals and tidied up our home before I went out. My husband was very cooperative and drove me around to do the letter box drops and put up posters.
But when the pandemic started, my family members became very negative, perhaps due to fear or the requirement for reduced activity during the lockdown. They blamed me for going out every day during such a severe pandemic with no regard for their safety. They said that I was selfish. I was busy with cooking when I got home, then studying the Fa online with other practitioners, then making phone calls to China, as well as other meetings sometimes. Indeed I had no time to take care of their feelings. I talked to people outside for a whole day and wanted to be quiet at home. My husband was very angry and lost his temper with me.
At first, I couldn’t accept it. I was busy every day and still did the cooking, no matter how tired I was. What else did my husband expect? I didn’t talk back though. But he didn’t forgive me and I felt wronged and sometimes argued with him. When I read the part about “Upgrading Xinxing” in Zhuan Falun, I realised that I hadn’t done well. I shouldn’t feel as if I’d been wronged, but should instead look within.
Master said in Zhuan Falun:
“As practitioners, you will suddenly come across conflicts. What should you do? You should always maintain a heart of compassion and kindness. Then, when you run into a problem, you will be able to do well because it gives you room to buffer the confrontation. You should always be benevolent and kind to others, and consider others when doing anything. Whenever you encounter a problem, you should first consider whether others can put up with this matter or if it will hurt anyone. In doing so, there will not be any problems. Therefore, in cultivation practice you should follow a higher and higher standard for yourself.”
When I measured myself with this Fa, I realised I was looking at the issue from my own perspective. I only thought of how tired I was and how come they didn’t understand me. I didn’t think of other family members who are everyday people. As a practitioner, my desires had become fewer and fewer. I only thought of studying the Fa, doing the exercises and clarifying the truth to people all day. Sometimes I didn’t even have the desire to talk to my husband. I didn’t consider his feelings. I felt fulfilled every day being busy with Dafa work, while he felt lonely. After the pandemic was over, my husband wanted to go on an overseas trip to relax. But there were only a few practitioners at the truth-clarification sites, so I made up various excuses to refuse him.
Later, I felt that I should spend some time with him and cultivate in ordinary society as best I could. So I arranged to go for a walk with him on Sunday when I had nothing to do, sometime sit on the beach, and chat with him.
Dealing with my son and his wife was also a big test for me. My son is a dutiful son. I didn’t live with him and didn’t have any conflict with him. He and his wife hoped that I would go and help them after my grandson was born. It was a big test for me. I went to the truth-clarification sites each week and they were very worried and afraid that I would bring home the virus. They complained that I wasn’t vaccinated. I told them the truth about the pandemic so they could let go of their fear.
I was busy with house chores every day. They didn’t understand why and kept criticising me. My traditional way of bringing up kids didn’t resonate with them, and they had strange ways which were very different from mine. I was upset at the beginning and didn’t reflect on why this happened, why things went wrong all of a sudden and why all sorts of conflicts came up. I didn’t look within but looked externally at them instead. Other people were wrong, not me.
One night our Fa study group read Master’s lecture “Teachings at the First Conference in North America”,
Master said: “As you cultivate, no matter what type of difficulty you encounter, as long as you can first examine yourself for the cause, you will be able to resolve any problem. You have to search inside yourself when you encounter problems. As I said earlier, [it comes about] not because others have wronged you, but rather, because there is something wrong on your part.”
After reading this, I started to examine myself. Was it because I thought I was experienced in raising children and was too attached to that? First I found my own problem and let it go. I shouldn’t be too concerned. I should just do the things I should do. The conflicts would fade away as time went on.
One day my daughter-in-law said to me: “Mum, you always consider others first. Actually you don’t need to be too concerned about other people.” I told her that our Master taught us to consider others first with everything.
At the start when I had conflicts with my son and his wife, I got angry and complained that they didn’t understand how hard their parents had to work. Luckily I had the Fa, so I would look at myself compared to the Fa standard, rectify myself and dissolve the conflicts. I would like to thank Master for giving this Fa to us and enabling me to transcend the mundane world of ordinary people. Otherwise I would be like everyday people who are entangled in conflicts and always get upset.
Sometimes I was troubled by the family conflicts and envied practitioners who didn’t have family and had a quiet simple life. But from the Fa I understand that every practitioner’s cultivation path is different, because every one’s karma and attachments are different. This is the path I should walk on.
Master said in Zhuan Falun: “If you live very well among everyday people, how can you practise cultivation? How can your karma be transformed? How will you have an environment to upgrade your xinxing and transform your karma? Everyone should be sure to keep this in mind.”
Master also said in “Teachings at the First Conference in North America”: “I have told you that cultivation isn’t easy. You have endured many hardships. Enduring hardships occurs only in righteous religions or cultivation ways. If a practice can be carried out smoothly without any ordeals, it can’t be called a cultivation way and it cannot lead a person to Consummation. This is an absolute truth.”
I learnt from Master’s recent articles that cultivation in Dafa is very serious. We signed contracts with Gods. We are Dafa disciples in the Fa-rectification period and should try our best to fulfil our historic mission and live up to Master’s expectation.
I will act according to the Fa’s requirements, fulfill my mission and achieve consummation.
Thank you Master!
Thank you fellow practitioners!